Saturday, March 7, 2015

I'd be lying if I said I'm not bitter

Well, I haven't posted in a while. I've been super busy with life...you know, working full time and being a wife and mommy. I don't have anything insightful to post this evening--I just need to vent. I am married to an amazing person who takes very good care of his family. He is the guy at work that everyone gets along with. He's reliable, hard-working, committed, fun to be around, and a great father to our son. The one thing he is not, unfortunately, is willing to allow his narcissistic mother to mistreat his wife. That is where he draws the line. Because his mother has convinced his entire family that I am to blame for her issues, he has no relationship with any of them. This woman has effectively pushed him to the outskirts of his own family. In recent months, he has attempted to reach out to them. He had an opportunity to talk with his father, but his father insisted that his mother be a part of the phone call as well. When he responded by saying that he really just wanted to talk with his father and his father only, "they" relented and said that was fine. However, when my husband called his father to have that conversation, his father allowed the phone to go to voice mail. My husband left a voice mail...a voice mail that was never returned. To this day, his father never called him back. That was nearly six months ago. I know it is not easy for my husband to reach out to his family as a result of his mother's narcissistic tentacles...and when he did, he was rejected. Denied a simple phone call with his father. This is our life right now. I admit I am bitter. But I will NEVER EVER tell my husband not to contact his family. I am just so bitter about what this woman has done to her firstborn son. I don't hold out hope that things will improve, but I pray that my husband will find peace and understanding in the midst of the storm that is his family headed by his narcissistic mother and enabling father.