Lies, lies...They're all Lies!

I have to start this post by saying how proud I am of my husband. Even though he has had a rough go with his narc mom and her support system consisting of his dad and siblings, he reached out to his mom for the first time in years in hopes of some sort of reconciliation. Before this, he had been going no-contact. I had been going low-contact. So after an invite from my husband, the narcissistic monster-in-law visited my house on Monday with her enabling husband. I had to work so I wasn't there. But when I got home, my hubbie told me that the visit started out okay but ended horribly. This was the first time she had visited our home in four years. She went on and on about how much we hate her and she's never stepping foot inside our house again...all because my husband told her that she's done some things that hurt my feelings. Apparently, narcissistic mothers NEVER do anything wrong and to be accused of hurting someone else's feelings was just completely out of line. She ended up storming out of our home. As her husband was trying to usher her out of our home before her tirade could escalate even further, she even yelled at her husband to "Get your hands off of me!" Our son, their first grandson, was upstairs the entire time. When I got home and went upstairs, he was surprised to learn that they left without even saying good-bye to him...that' s how much this woman thinks of her grandson, apparently. *insert major side eye here*

The big eye opener for me during this latest narc mom episode is this--these women, no matter how religious or holy they claim to be...have no problem telling LIES to support their version of events. My husband told me about what was said during their visit...this woman flat out LIED multiple times. I have no doubt that narc moms and in-laws make up lies and fabricate events to support their own twisted version of reality. My husband and I have come to the sad reality that this woman will twist facts, ignore our efforts to reach out to them, and literally tell lies to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

I'd be lying if I said I'm not bitter

Well, I haven't posted in a while. I've been super busy with life...you know, working full time and being a wife and mommy. I don't have anything insightful to post this evening--I just need to vent. I am married to an amazing person who takes very good care of his family. He is the guy at work that everyone gets along with. He's reliable, hard-working, committed, fun to be around, and a great father to our son. The one thing he is not, unfortunately, is willing to allow his narcissistic mother to mistreat his wife. That is where he draws the line. Because his mother has convinced his entire family that I am to blame for her issues, he has no relationship with any of them. This woman has effectively pushed him to the outskirts of his own family. In recent months, he has attempted to reach out to them. He had an opportunity to talk with his father, but his father insisted that his mother be a part of the phone call as well. When he responded by saying that he really just wanted to talk with his father and his father only, "they" relented and said that was fine. However, when my husband called his father to have that conversation, his father allowed the phone to go to voice mail. My husband left a voice mail...a voice mail that was never returned. To this day, his father never called him back. That was nearly six months ago. I know it is not easy for my husband to reach out to his family as a result of his mother's narcissistic tentacles...and when he did, he was rejected. Denied a simple phone call with his father. This is our life right now. I admit I am bitter. But I will NEVER EVER tell my husband not to contact his family. I am just so bitter about what this woman has done to her firstborn son. I don't hold out hope that things will improve, but I pray that my husband will find peace and understanding in the midst of the storm that is his family headed by his narcissistic mother and enabling father.